my boss is pressuring me to be extra “seen” — Ask a Supervisor


It’s “the place are you now?” month at Ask a Supervisor, and all December I’m operating updates from individuals who had their letters right here answered previously.

There might be extra posts than normal this week, so hold checking again all through the day.

Keep in mind the letter-writer whose boss was pressuring them to be extra “seen”? Right here’s the replace.

I wrote in as a result of my massive boss, Eve, wished me to participate in a stay webinar. I emailed her and defined that I didn’t suppose it was the correct factor for me for the time being with my psychological well being. She accepted that with out pushback and no extra was mentioned of it.

A few month after my letter, issues deteriorated with my boss, Adam. In my month-to-month catchup, he complained I used to be not “seen” sufficient once more. I had been coming into the workplace rather a lot that month for varied conferences, in order that didn’t appear justified. However he retorted that was not what he meant — however then might probably not clarify what he did imply.

He was then irritated that I used to be not seen sufficient as I had been so busy engaged on a really sophisticated, essential venture (which was part of my job), and so I mentioned “What would you like me to do??” with exasperation. The temperature within the room dropped dramatically and he appeared very irritated with me. I ultimately informed him I felt “misplaced” as I used to be getting no path. I bit my tongue and didn’t say that I by no means heard from him other than these month-to-month conferences, and he was imagined to be my mentor.

After that assembly, I felt that my job was in danger. I spoke to a number of members of my firm about how I might work higher with them and improve “visibility.” This was useful to a level, however I knew that the scenario was not sustainable. A month later, I used to be one in every of six individuals made redundant. I felt very relieved, to be trustworthy. In my final assembly with Adam, he gave me numerous glowing suggestions. I had not obtained greater than two constructive feedback from him throughout the final 12 months earlier than then, and it felt like too little too late.

Within the midst of my redundancy, because it was World Psychological Well being Day, I selected to wrote on LinkedIn about my expertise of psychological well being. It was the primary time I’d spoken publicly about it. The senior individuals at my firm talked about it to me in my ultimate assembly with reward for sharing it. I feel they lastly understood why I had discovered work troublesome, and maybe even felt responsible on reflection for pushing me so arduous. Additionally, on the time, analysis got here out that managers have an effect on individuals’s psychological well being greater than another individual of their life. I actually suppose there’s a duty for managers to recollect the influence (good and dangerous) they will have on a person’s well-being.

I’m now at a brand new firm the place I obtain big quantities of constructive suggestions, and my “visibility” isn’t questioned. As a supervisor, the expertise has jogged my memory to offer common constructive suggestions (even when it’s simply to say thanks for all of the arduous work this week) and to additionally let my stories know that they will take sick depart for psychological well being with out query.

I by no means actually came upon what Adam wished from me or what “visibility” meant. I’ve seen my outdated workforce now producing a wave of selling blogs, so maybe what was wanted was extra fanfare and an overt show of ardour for my subject. It’s straightforward to say that in precept, however when you’re already deep in your assigned work and up towards workplace politics, it’s arduous to then see the way you’re supposed to search out the time or drive to go above and past with none steering out of your — fairly frankly — invisible mentor.

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